Holiday Grief and Loss: Surviving the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

The holiday season is here with traditions and festivities abound.  The hustle and bustle can make this time of year extremely difficult for those who are grieving the loss of a loved one, a long-term relationship, or a beloved pet.  How can people who are grieving find peace and comfort while the world around them seems so merry and bright?  Here are a few tips that can help:

• Allow yourself to grieve your loss in a way that's meaning for you.  Don't force yourself to do things because you feel you "should". Perhaps you can create a new tradition that's meaningful and cathartic for you.  Give yourself the time, space, and compassion that you need during this challenging time. 
• Surround yourself with caring friends and relatives who are supportive and nonjudgemental.  Talk about your loss or play a game of scrabble in silence.  Find those companions who support your journey without expectation.  
• Connect with a cause that resonates with you.  Turn your hurts into a blessing by volunteering your time, skills or resources to a charitable project in your community.  Projecting your grief into a positive outlet can be meaningful and life changing...for you and the beneficiaries alike.  
• Focus on self care.  Do not overextend yourself and be sure make your health an wellbeing a priority.  Stress less, get enough sleep, and enjoy party fare in moderation.  Allow yourself to enjoy time spent with special people in your life.  
• Let go of the guilt.  However you decide to spend this holiday, accept that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.  You may live, laugh, cry, or disconnect.  It's OK. This is your journey.  You must go through it to get through it.  

If you are having difficulty with a recent loss and are not able to move through your grief in a healthy way, please contact the Counseling House for an appointment or to set up a time to speak with our grief specialist.  May you have a blessed holiday and prosperous New Year.

By Jennifer Melnick Carota, MS, LPC, NCC

Owner, Director

The Counseling House